Plenty more fish in the sea

So I got dumped the other day. By email. Here it is for your pleasure.

Hi Frances.

I Just wanted to give you a little insight on something psychological that I think you might find interesting.

I think what you are unaware of is that I understand you better than you would think, here's how...

You want to be the person who chooses and chases the man but the irony in this is that probably most times in your past (relationships etc.) you have either ended up chasing the guy who

a) doesn't want you

b) is immature/insecure

c) over dominates you

I know you have a need to attain the 'unattainable' guy and you probably end up tricking yourself into thinking a guy is much more interesting than he turns out to be. Suffice to say you are always attracted to what you can't have.

I understand lately that you have seen a different side of me and you are probably thinking I have been weak and submissive, needy and asking of your permission to meet up. You have also seen the darkest, unexciting version of me in our latest meetings who isn't as dominant as you would prefer.

Let me just clear this up for you now. I am not looking for your permission to meet up, even on the subtlest level. I have wanted to meet up with you because I actually enjoy your company, your feminine drive to contribute and nurture and your passions. More than anything I just wanted to have fun experiences together.

I know you don't give me much of your time and for good reason. You most likely have multiple guys you see that give you things that make you feel validated, significant and wanted. If not from guys you get this from Family or Friends. And I realise this is why I get the same treatment because I'm no more important than anybody else. I just give you that little bit of something you need and you get the rest from whoever else. As you already knew, I wanted to be more than than this.

In the big picture of things, I know I'm an attractive guy and I'm strong, dominant, independent and fun. The fact that I have turned down advances made on me by girls since we've been together has shown my integrity and commitment to you. Just so you know, you were never a conquest or my Trophy. But right now I don't feel like your respecting my qualities as a boyfriend.

I will say I am sorry for pressuring you into trying to get to know me too quickly.

Here's the tricky bit for me though... In my mind I know that, just because I understand you, doesn't mean I'm right for you. And just because you are a nice girl to lots of guys, doesn't mean you are a nice girlfriend for me. I think I was kidding myself on this... and I need to be true to who I am and my values.

I really didn't want it to end like this but I can't see us continuing our relationship in the future.

I hope this has been thorough enough, if not you can let me know.

Gosh, I'm quite worn out after reading that misspelt epic. Yawn. I need some fuel. Lucky for me I had the pleasure of not one, but two, hot catches for dinner!

First, a nice bit of plaice with dauphinois potatoes, and second, asian sauced salmon with mash potatoes and caramelised carrots. Much easier to swallow than the above psy101 essay!